LIFE STARTS WHEN YOU DO- BUT DON'T WASTE TIME: WHERE IS THE BALANCE?

   Hi guys, how are we doing? 

As promised in my last post, I’m posting this today. Today’s post is different. I found myself asking random questions to people a lot, and I had a conflicting question in mind which I needed answers to, so I asked, and this time, I decided to turn it into a blog post, so please read and comment on your opinion.

QUESTION: Let’s say a 25-year-old who feels like life hasn’t started for him or her listens to two different pieces of advice. 

1. Time waits for no one. The person has heard this advice since they were a child and now feels pressured.

2.  Life starts whenever you do. The person heard it recently and felt better.

I know that these two are good, but where can there be a balance between the two?

THE RESPONSES

Selchang: Two statements with unquestionable truths yet different applications.

So firstly, everyone has a different timeline according to God's plan, and the only way we can access our timelines and work in them is when we're focused, like a runner on his track, not mindful of other runners ( because looking back or side distracts him)

 meaning no comparison with others.... just working on our goals and dreams....

The time waits for no man statement should make the 25-year-old do useful stuff and say something objective with time and goals rather than lazing around. However, like you said, this can put pressure on people..

Imagine being in school as a 25-year-old lady and hearing "time waits for no man" in a season where most of her friends are getting married.....Lots of pressure, right? Yes 

My advice to her would be to know that ALL THAT WILL TAKE US TO AND BEYOND THE BEAUTY WE WANT TO SEE AND EXPERIENCE IN LIFE IS FOUND WHEN WE ARE IN ALIGNMENT WITH WHAT WE OUGHT TO BE DOING ( WORK WISE, SPIRITUALLY, PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT WISE, AND ALL ASPECTS)...if we are in alignment, then we'd know that whatever we miss isn't for us and whatever we get is for us...Such a lady in alignment will get the right guy for her, which she'd be happy with at the right time, even if later than others..

Just the way children hit growth milestones at different ages, people hit life milestones at different ages, and it's totally okay to do so.

So the balance lies in Focus and belief in what we're doing and why God has placed in us..Comparison is a thief of joy..

Divine: So putting a balance to both statements, Don’t be pressured about time, just be cautious about it, don’t let it put You under pressure, but know it’s still ticking and You can always make the most of it when You start‼

Judith: Okay, I know that at 25 it already feels like time is running out, you're just 5years to 30, you've not accomplished much compared to what your peers have gotten, and it just really looks bad. 

 If we're looking for a balance between these two pieces of advice that such an individual could work with it would be: stop,  look back and see how far you've come and since you shouldn't be doing nothing, you should be gracious to yourself, let your own story unravel graciously, do not put unnecessary pressure on yourself and be thankful for everyday. 

And again, whatever it is that you plan to do, start now(there isn't any other better time than now) and just keep going.

Making it simple, the balance between the two would be: don't stay idle, grow, build value, gain knowledge, start something, but while doing so, be kind to yourself and do not compare yourself to others

Jenissi: I feel this naturally — time waits for no one. Whether you choose to be productive or not, the clock keeps ticking. And with each passing day, you get older.

Life starts whenever you do. To me, that means whenever you decide to truly live — not just passively exist without goals, ambitions, or dreams — that’s when your life gains meaning. That’s when you truly start living.

So, I wouldn’t necessarily say there’s a balance. Time moves on, with or without your permission; that’s a constant in everyone’s life.

My advice to this person would be to start living instead of waiting for a eureka moment. What do you want to do? Start working on it. What kind of person do you want to become? Start living it. What are your dreams? Take small but steady steps toward them every day.

Whether you want your life to start or not is up to you — but trust me, time goes on.

Josiah: A healthy balance lies in realising that time doesn’t wait, but you don’t have to rush. It means acknowledging that life is moving — so you should make intentional progress — yet also understanding that your journey unfolds at your own pace. In other words, respect time without letting it pressure you, and take action without comparing your timeline to anyone else’s.

Fonon: The balance can be found by acknowledging both statements are true and telling ourselves the difficult truths, while YOUR life (sort of) starts whenever you do, time, i.e. opportunities, age, etc., wait for no one.

   So while it's never too late to start, time wasted or lost can never be gotten back, and one shouldn't be illusioned into thinking that the world will wait for you till you think you're ready to start life. 

   Life goes on with or without you, so start NOW.

The 25-year-old may be you, even if you are not 25 yet, or you’ve passed 25 years old, you feel life hasn’t started for you. I hope you finally find the balance.

I hope you enjoyed this post. I think I might do this often (maybe not every post), but this felt really nice.

Bye, guys, see you soon.